See what you carry for others.
The Carry maps your invisible workload — emotional labor, institutional maintenance, dependent care, everything you hold that no one counts. Not self-care advice. A structural analysis of your specific burden.
Map your carry-structure
Add what you carry for others
How carry-structures fail
Fatigue Failure
The slow erosion. You carry something so long the weight changes your structure. Example: The parent managing all family logistics for years, then can't remember why they're tired.
Sudden Collapse
One more thing and the whole structure gives way. You've been load-bearing so long that a single addition exceeds capacity instantly. Example: The team lead absorbing departed colleague's work, then breaking at a minor setback.
Cascading Failure
When one carry drops, others redistribute to you. You absorb the load, then become the next break point. Example: The community organizer who picks up what institutions dropped, then carries an unsustainable cascade.
Who's carrying you
Every carry-structure has supports beneath it. The friend who checks in. The colleague who covers your blind spots. The partner who carries your emotional weight. The institution that still holds something for you.
Emotional Support
People who hold space for you.
Practical Support
People who handle things you don't see.
Structural Support
Institutions, systems, privileges bearing weight for you.
Most people underestimate their support by 60%. The inversion reveals who's holding you up.
Recognize your pattern
The Eldest Daughter
- Family logistics (w:4, 3+yr)
- Emotional mediation (w:3, 1-3yr)
- Parent care (w:4, 3+yr)
- Sibling support (w:3, 1-3yr)
The Team Lead
- Team morale (w:4, 1-3yr)
- Institutional gaps (w:4, 3+yr)
- Individual performance (w:3, 6-12mo)
- Invisible planning (w:3, 1-3yr)
The Caregiver
- Medical coordination (w:5, 3+yr)
- Daily care (w:5, 3+yr)
- Emotional containment (w:4, 1-3yr)
- Future planning (w:3, 3+yr)
The Partner
- Emotional labor (w:3, 3+yr)
- Household mental load (w:4, 3+yr)
- Relationship maintenance (w:3, 1-3yr)
- Extended family navigation (w:3, 1-3yr)
The Community Builder
- Social connection (w:3, 3+yr)
- Event coordination (w:4, 1-3yr)
- Conflict resolution (w:3, 1-3yr)
- Belonging (w:3, 3+yr)
The Institutional Vacuum
- Policy gaps (w:4, 3+yr)
- Systemic failures (w:5, 3+yr)
- Community needs (w:4, 3+yr)
- Invisible accumulation (w:3, 1-3yr)
The weight no one counts
These numbers come from carry-structure analyses run on this tool. They update as more people map their carries.
Your break point is knowable
You don't need more self-care advice. You need to see the structure of what you carry — where it's load-bearing, where it's misattributed, and where it will break. The Carry gives you the map. What you do with it is yours.
Your data stays on your device. No account needed. Come back when your carry-load changes.